Question 255: Is there any problem with a Sayyid girl marrying a non-Sayyid man?

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✅Answer: Regarding a Sayyid girl marrying a non-Sayyid, no prohibition has been reported. According to the famous hadith of Imam Sadiq (peace be upon him) in 📚Man La Yahdhuruhu al-Faqih, vol. 1, p. 317, he said: 'Everything is absolute until a prohibition is reported concerning it.'

This means: 'Everything is absolute until a prohibition is reported about it.' This matter remains absolute and there is no problem with it.

✅In addition to this matter being absolute, there are various pieces of evidence in narrations that show there is no problem with this marriage, and rather it is recommended.

✅Pay attention to a few examples:

✅عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ: إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ زَوَّجَ الْمِقْدَادَ بْنَ الْأَسْوَدِ ضُبَاعَةَ ابْنَةَ الزُّبَيْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الْمُطَّلِبِ- وَ إِنَّمَا زَوَّجَهُ لِتَتَّضِعَ الْمَنَاكِحُ وَ لِيَتَأَسَّوْا بِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلی الله علیه و آله وَ لِيَعْلَمُوا أَنَّ أَكْرَمَهُمْ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاهُمْ.

📚 Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 344

Translation: Imam Sadiq (peace be upon him) said: 'The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) married Duba'ah, the daughter of Zubayr ibn 'Abd al-Muttalib (who was from Banu Hashim), to Miqdad ibn al-Aswad. And indeed, he did this so that marriages would be lowered (so that tribal and other honors would not be considered) and so that people would follow the example of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and take him as a role model, and know that the most honored of people in the sight of Allah are the most pious among them.'

✅عَنِ السَّيَّارِيِّ عَنْ بَعْضِ الْبَغْدَادِيِّينَ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ بِلَالٍ قَالَ: لَقِيَ هِشَامَ بْنَ الْحَكَمِ بَعْضُ الْخَوَارِجِ فَقَالَ يَا هِشَامُ مَا تَقُولُ فِي الْعَجَمِ يَجُوزُ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجُوا فِي الْعَرَبِ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَالْعَرَبُ يَتَزَوَّجُوا مِنْ قُرَيْشٍ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَقُرَيْشٌ تَزَوَّجُ فِي بَنِي هَاشِمٍ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ عَمَّنْ أَخَذْتَ هَذَا قَالَ عَنْ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ سَمِعْتُهُ يَقُولُ أَ تَتَكَافَأُ دِمَاؤُكُمْ وَ لَا تَتَكَافَأُ فُرُوجُكُم

📚 Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 345

Translation: 'Ali ibn Bilal said: One of the Khawarij met Hisham ibn Hakam and said to him: 'O Hisham, what do you say about a non-Arab? Is it permissible for him to marry an Arab woman?' He said: 'Yes (it is permissible).' Then he said: 'What about an Arab marrying a Qurayshi woman?' He said: 'Yes.' Then he said: 'What about a Qurayshi marrying a woman from Banu Hashim (Sayyids)?' He said: 'Yes.' Then he said: 'From whom did you learn this?' He said: 'From Ja'far ibn Muhammad, Imam Sadiq (peace be upon him), for I heard him say: 'Are your bloodlines equal to one another but your private parts (marriages) are not equal to one another?!''

✅عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ خَيْرُ نِسَاءٍ رَكِبْنَ الرِّحَالَ نِسَاءُ قُرَيْشٍ- أَحْنَاهُنَّ عَلَى وَلَدٍ وَ خَيْرُهُنَّ لِزَوْجٍ.

📚 Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 326

Translation: Imam Sadiq (peace be upon him) said: 'The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 'The best of women who ride on saddles are the women of Quraysh, for they are the most compassionate to a child and the best for a husband.'

✅Sayyids and Banu Hashim are a part of the Quraysh tribe.

✅There are other narrational evidences in this regard as well.

✅Also, pay attention to the following hadith:

قَالَ: وَ نَظَرَ النَّبِيُّ إِلَى أَوْلَادِ عَلِيٍّ وَ جَعْفَرٍ فَقَالَ بَنَاتُنَا لِبَنِينَا وَ بَنُونَا لِبَنَاتِنَا.

📚 Man La Yahdhuruhu al-Faqih, vol. 3, p. 393

Translation: Shaykh Saduq narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) looked at the children of 'Ali and Ja'far and said: 'Our daughters are for our sons, and our sons are for our daughters.'

✅The above narration, in light of the other narrations, does not convey necessity or exclusivity. Rather, it indicates the usual and preferred practice of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that the sons and daughters of Banu Hashim would usually marry each other, and it does not indicate the impermissibility of a Sayyid woman marrying a non-Sayyid, as was clarified in several narrations.

✅It is observed that in addition to the absence of a prohibition on non-Sayyids marrying Sayyids, there are also encouragements in this regard.

اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَی مُحَمَّدٍ وَ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَ عَجِّلْ لِوَلِیِّکَ الْفَرَجَ وَ الْعَافِیَةَ وَ النَّصْر

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