✅ Answer: Many direct and indirect approaches can be mentioned regarding the above question. As an example, pay attention to the following three cases:

1⃣قال امیرالمؤمنین في حديث :... فَدَارُوهُنَّ عَلَى كُلِّ حَالٍ وَ أَحْسِنُوا لَهُنَّ الْمَقَالَ لَعَلَّهُنَّ يُحْسِنَّ الْفِعَالَ.

📚 Man La Yahduruhu al-Faqih, Vol. 3, p. 554

Amir al-Mu’minin, peace be upon him, said to a man who complained to him about his wives, among other things: Always treat women with kindness and make your speech and conversation with them beautiful and pleasant, so that there is hope they will improve their actions and deeds!

2⃣في حديث قَالَ امیرالمؤمنین لرجل إِذَا انْصَرَفْتَ إِلَی الْمَوْضِعِ الَّذِی هِیَ فِیهِ فَقُلِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّی أَتَوَجَّهُ إِلَیْكَ بِنَبِیِّكَ نَبِیِّ الرَّحْمَةِ وَ أَهْلِ بَیْتِهِ الَّذِینَ اخْتَرْتَهُمْ عَلی عِلْمٍ عَلَی الْعالَمِینَ اللَّهُمَّ ذَلِّلْ لِی صُعُوبَتَهَا وَ اكْفِنِی شَرَّهَا فَإِنَّكَ الْكَافِی الْمُعَافِی وَ الْغَالِبُ الْقَاهِرُ.

فَقَالَ أَمِیرُ الْمُؤْمِنِینَ علیه السلام كُلُّ مَنِ اسْتَصْعَبَ عَلَیْهِ شَیْءٌ مِنْ مَالٍ أَوْ أَهْلٍ أَوْ وَلَدٍ أَوْ أَمْرٍ فَلْیَبْتَهِلْ إِلَی اللَّهِ بِهَذَا الدُّعَاءِ فَإِنَّهُ یُكْفَی مِمَّا یَخَافُ اللّٰه إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ

📚 Al-Khara’ij wa al-Jara’ih, pp. 84 and 85

📚 Manaqib Al Abi Talib, Vol. 1, p. 455

📚 Bihar al-Anwar, Vol. 41, p. 240

In a narration, Amir al-Mu’minin, peace be upon him, said to a man who complained to him about the restlessness, unruliness, and disobedience of his camels: When you return to the place where they are, say:

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّی أَتَوَجَّهُ إِلَیْكَ بِنَبِیِّكَ نَبِیِّ الرَّحْمَةِ وَ أَهْلِ بَیْتِهِ الَّذِینَ اخْتَرْتَهُمْ عَلی عِلْمٍ عَلَی الْعالَمِینَ اللَّهُمَّ ذَلِّلْ لِی صُعُوبَتَهَا وَ اكْفِنِی شَرَّهَا فَإِنَّكَ الْكَافِی الْمُعَافِی وَ الْغَالِبُ الْقَاهِرُ

Until Amir al-Mu’minin, peace be upon him, said: Whoever has something—whether wealth, a wife, or a child—that is restless, unruly, or disobedient should supplicate to Allah with this prayer!

✅ Explanation: In 📚 Kafi, Vol. 2, p. 478, Imam Sadiq, peace be upon him, said:

الِابْتِهَالُ رَفْعُ الْیَدَیْنِ وَ تَمُدُّهُمَا وَ ذَلِکَ عِنْدَ الدَّمْعَةِ ثُمَّ ادْعُ.

Meaning: Ibtihal is raising the hands, stretching them out, and doing so while shedding tears, then supplicating!

Thus, to recite the above supplication, when tears flow, we raise our hands and stretch them toward the sky, reciting the supplication while crying.

3⃣عَنْ أَحْمَدَ عَنْ عَلِیِّ بْنِ حَدِیدٍ عَنْ بَعْضِ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَبِی عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ: جُبِلَتِ الْقُلُوبُ عَلَی حُبِّ مَنْ یَنْفَعُهَا وَ بُغْضِ مَنْ أَضَرَّ بِهَا.

📚 Al-Kafi, Vol. 8, p. 152

Imam Sadiq, peace be upon him, said: Hearts are naturally inclined to love those who benefit them and to dislike those who harm them!

✅ Nowadays, the incompatibility and disobedience of wives is a significant family issue with various causes. Certainly, addressing, controlling, and resolving it requires attention to multiple factors.

In this brief response, three narrations were referenced that can be utilized in this regard.

In narration 1⃣, treating with kindness and beautifying speech in both content and expression is one of the actions that, if performed by the husband, may lead to the wife improving her actions and deeds.

In narration 2⃣, reciting the mentioned supplication while crying and stretching hands toward the sky is deemed sufficient for making a wife, child, or other matters calm and obedient.

Of course, it is appropriate to observe the etiquettes of supplication, such as persistence and sending salawat, to achieve the desired result, God willing.

Based on narration 3⃣, providing benefits and showing kindness are actions that foster heartfelt love, which is one of the foundations for achieving calmness and obedience.

اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَی مُحَمَّدٍ وَ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَ عَجِّلْ لِوَلِیِّکَ الْفَرَجَ وَ الْعَافِیَةَ وَ النَّصْر

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